So one thing I've been really excited to learn about is visualization and the ability to control your current mental state. I cannot stress enough how invaluable a skill this is. This was the main transformation I saw in myself after finishing the book "The Power of Now". I was able to recognize when I would begin to have negative feelings, and I taught myself to objectively watch myself have these feelings. Without bias, I simply observed the emotion without reacting to it, described what it felt like physically and mentally. Immediately, the negative emotion was gone. It was as if the emotion was a spiteful child who only wanted attention. Refuse this attention, and the emotion melts away.
The stress in my life has SIGNIFICANTLY lessened, but this is not really "Controlling" mental states. This is more defusing negative states. I want to learn to fill myself with an emotion of my choosing at the drop of a hat. Visualization is the key to this skill.
Over the course of my reading I have come across multiple methods that I will discuss in other posts, but I wanted to share one simple method that anyone can put to use today.
Remember when you were preparing for a certain event where you would be the center of attention? It's quite daunting when you are not used to it. As expected, someone close to you tries to calm you down and suggest "Imagine everyone else in their underwear!" This is kind of like that.
What I've learned to do is imagine everyone with angel wings on their back. Big, glorious, glowing angel wings, spread wide for the world to see. Sound silly? Let me explain.
When talking with others, one characteristic that is vital to your charisma is warmth. You gotta be nice dammit!! You can have all the confidence in the world, but if you don't genuinely care about the well being of others, it will be apparent in your everyday interactions. Now tell me, if you bump into a guy with angel wings walking on the street are you going to yell out "Hey dickhead, get outta my way!"?
No, you're not. You're probably going to be concerned that they are hurt, concerned that you inconvenienced them on their journey to whatever destination they have. The guys got freaking angel wings... I mean, come on.
Imagining everyone as angels just gives you that warm feeling inside. It opens you up to seeing the inherent good in others, giving them the benefit of the doubt that they are genuinely nice people. You will go into any interaction with an advantage because your warmth levels will be off the charts. You will also find that you're less nervous. Honestly, what bad is an angel gonna do you? Except for Ben Affleck in "Dogma". He was a bad angel, don't imagine him.
See these angels all around you, and then see yourself as one of them, part of a team all trying to make the world a better place. Yea it sounds lame as hell, but who cares?? Your body language will be so relaxed and your demeanor will show a caring for other people. I've been doing this for a week now and it only get's better the more I try it.
Give it a shot! No one's going to know, what do you have to loose? Commit to it, give it 100% and I'm telling you it will work. You'll feel light like your floating on a cloud... or something, it's cool!
If you try it and it works, that's awesome! Comment and share your story so others can learn and see that this silly, lame, korny shit actually works!
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